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Ministry of the Attorney General

What You Should Know About Family Law in Ontario

Court Services Division

Ministry of the Attorney General

November 2012

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This booklet contains information about the law as it was at the time it was written. The law can change. Check the Ministry of the Attorney General website at for current information. This booklet does not contain legal advice or replace the specialized advice of lawyers or other experts.

ISBN 978-1-4435-9606-0

This publication was made possible with funding from the Department of Justice Canada’s Child Centred Family Justice Fund.

August 1999
March 2002
Rev. November 2012

Table of Contents

  1. Things You Should Know About Family Law
  2. Your Legal Rights And Obligations
  3. Domestic Violence
  4. Finding More Information


This booklet is about family law in Ontario. It contains information about the laws that may affect you if you separate. These issues include the care andsupport of your children, support for you or your spouse and the division of your property.[1]

Before making important decisions, you should understand your rights and obligations. Family law can be complicated and a booklet cannot possibly answer all your questions or tell you everything you need to know. There are many ways you can inform yourself about the law and your options. Generally Ontario family law applies equally to couples who are of the same or opposite sex.

If you are separated or are thinking of separating, it is a good idea to speak to a lawyer about your situation. A lawyer can give you specific information about the law and tell you how it might affect you.

Your local family court can also be a good place to go for more information. These courts offer information sessions on issues affecting separating families. Family courts have Family Law Information Centres that provide a range of information and services, including the following:

Legal Aid Ontario has developed an on-line Family Law Information Program that covers a number of the issues that affect separating families that you may find helpful. This program is available at:

In Ontario, there are three different courts that deal with family law.

In some communities, family law matters are dealt with by the Family Court of the Superior Court of Justice. These courts can deal with all family law matters, including divorce, custody, access, division of property, adoption and child protection.

In other communities, family law matters are dealt with in two separate courts. You will need to know which one can deal with the family law issues you need to resolve:

You and your spouse can also resolve the issues between you through private settlement, negotiation, collaborative family law, mediation or arbitration instead of going to court. This booklet provides some information about each of these options.

I. Things You Should Know About Family Law

Getting married

When you get married, the law treats your marriage as an equal economic partnership. If your marriage ends, the value of the property you acquired while you were married and the increase in the value of property you brought into your marriage will be divided in half: one half for you and one half for your husband or wife. There are exceptions to this rule.

The law also provides that you and your husband or wife have an equal right to stay in the family home. If you separate, you will have to decide who will continue to live there.

In addition, Ontario’s family laws provide that you may be entitled to financial support for yourself and your children when your marriage ends.

Getting married results in your existing will being revoked, unless the will states that it was made in anticipation of the marriage.You may therefore need a new will after you marry. See page 38 for furtherdetails about what happens after a spouse’s death.

Couples who feel that the law does not suit the kind of relationship they have can makeother arrangements in a marriage contract.

Marriage contracts are very important legal documents. You should think carefully about yourdecision. Speak to a lawyer and exchange financial information before signing amarriage contract.

In amarriage contract you can say what you expect from each other during your marriage. You can list property that you are bringing into the marriage and say how much it is worth and who owns it. You can say exactly how you will divide your property if your marriage ends. You do not have to divide your property equally. You can describe how support payments will be made if your marriage ends. You can also make plans for the education and religious upbringing of your children, even if they are not yet born.

There are some things you cannot put in your marriage contract. You cannot make promises about custody and access arrangementsfor your children if your marriage breaks down. You cannot change the law that says each spouse has an equal right to live in their home.

We are already married and do not have a marriage contract. Now we think it might be a good idea to have one. Is it too late?

No, it’s not too late. You can sign a marriage contract after you are married. Remember that it must be in writing and signed by you and your spouse in front of a witness who must also sign the contract. If you write your contract yourselves, each of you should have your own lawyer look it over before you sign it.

I am getting married in a few months. I don’t own a lot but I do have the china set my mother got when she was married. It is worth about $2,000. When I marry, does the china set become my husband’s too?

No. The china is your property. If your marriage ends, you can keep the china. But if the china has increased in value when your marriage ends, you and your spouse will share the increase in value.

If you have a marriage contract, it could say that the china is your property and that any increase in the value of the china during your marriage will not be shared with your spouse if your marriage ends.

Living together

If you live with someone without being married, people say you are in a common law relationship or are cohabiting.


Common law couples do not have the same rights as married couples to share the property they bought when they were living together. Usually, furniture, household belongings and other property belong to the person who bought them. Common law couples also do not have the right to divide between them the increase in value of the property they brought with them to the relationship.

If you have contributed to property your spouse owns, you may have a right to part of it. Unless your spouse agrees to pay you back through negotiation, mediation, collaborative law or arbitration, you may have to go to court to get back your contribution.


If your common law relationship ends, and you do not have enough money to support yourself, you can ask your spouse to pay support. You can ask for support for yourself if you have been living together for three years, or if you have lived together for less time and have had or adopted a child together. You and your spouse can settle on an amount for support through negotiation, mediation, collaborative law or arbitration. If you can’t resolve the issues, you can go to court and ask a judge to decide if you should get support.

If you and your spouse have or adopt a child together, you can ask for support for that child. Children of parents living in a common law relationship have the same rights to support from their parents as the children of married couples. If your spouse treated your child as their child while you lived together, you can also ask for support. You can settle on support for your child through negotiation, mediation, collaborative law or arbitration. If you can’t resolve the issues, you can go to court and ask a judge to order your spouse to pay support for that child. The amount of support is set under the Child Support Guidelines.

As part of a support order for you or your child, you may also ask to stay in the home you shared when you lived together. The judge can order this even if you do not own the home, or if your name is not on the lease. This is different than for married couples. Married couples automatically have an equal right to stay in the home.

If you do not get support, you do not have the right to stay in the home if it is not yours.

Cohabitation Agreements

Couples in a common law relationship can sign a cohabitation agreement to protect their rights.

A cohabitation agreement can spell out what you both want your financial and family arrangements to be. It can say who owns the things you buy while you are living together. It can say how much support will be paid if the relationship ends and how your property will be divided. It can say who has to move out of the home if the relationship ends.

It cannot say who will have custody of, or access to, your children if your relationship ends. You cannot decide this before the relationship is over.

Both of you must sign a cohabitation agreement in front of a witness for it to be legal. The witness must also sign the agreement. Once you have signed a cohabitation agreement, you must follow what it says. If one of you decides you don’t like the agreement, you can negotiate a change to the agreement. Any change must also be in writing and signed in front of a witness. If you cannot agree, and you have now separated, you have to go to court and ask a judge to decide the issues between you.

You should each speak to a different lawyer and exchange financial information before signing a cohabitation agreement.

We are living together and don’t have a cohabitation agreement. What will happen to the things we own and our savings if one of us dies?

If you die without having a will which says exactly what you want to have happen to your property, your property will go to your blood relatives – for instance, your children, your parents or your brothers and sisters. To claim part of your property, your common law spouse will have to go to court to prove that he or she helped to pay for it. This takes time and is expensive. For these reasons, people living in a common law relationship should each have a will that says to whom they want their property to go if one of them dies.

When we moved in together, we went to lawyers and signed a cohabitation agreement. We’ve decided to get married. What happens to our cohabitation agreement?

When you get married, your cohabitation agreement becomes your marriage contract. If you both want to change it, you can sign a new agreement.

Separating and Settling the Issues Between You

You are separated when you are not living together and it is not likely that you will live together again. When you separate, there are many decisions that have to be made.

You will need to arrange which one of you will stay in your home, who will take care of your children, who will pay family debts, how much support will be paid, and how you will divide your property.

You can resolve things in different ways.

  1. You can have an informal arrangement, which can be verbal or in writing.
  2. You can agree on things and write down your decisions in a separation agreement. A separation agreement must be signed by both of you in front of a witness for it to be legal. The witness must sign the agreement too.
  3. You can use a lawyer to help you negotiate a separation agreement.
  4. You can use a mediator or an arbitrator.
  5. You can use collaborative family law. (If you are interested in pursuing this option, you should contact a lawyer who has been trained in collaborative family law.)
  6. You can go to court and ask the court to decide.

Unless the circumstances of your separation make it unsafe to negotiate, because your spouse is violent or threatening, it is better if the two of you can agree on how to settle the issues between you through negotiation, mediation or collaborative family law. Court proceedings can be very expensive and take a long time. If you and your spouse cannot come to an agreement using one approach you may want to try another. For example your lawyer may suggest that you work with a mediator or arbitrator.

Signing a separation agreement is a very important step. Your decisions now can affect you and your children for the rest of your lives. If in the future, one of you decides you don’t like the agreement, you can try to negotiate a new agreement. If you cannot agree you have to go to court and ask a judge to change it. A separation agreement is a contract that you must honour. You should speak to a lawyer to make sure you know all of the legal consequences of your decisions.

You have a right to complete and honest information about your spouse’s financial affairs before you make any decisions. Do not sign anything until you are sure you have all the information you need. Make sure that you understand what is written down and that you agree to it.

The law leaves the decision about settling your family law issues to you. You may have a hard time proving that you and your spouse had promised to settle things a certain way if you do not have a written and signed separation agreement. This could be a problem if your spouse stops respecting your informal agreement.

It is up to you and your spouse to decide the best way to settle the issues between you. A lawyer or mediator may be able to help you decide what would be best for you. For more information on these different processes, see the “settling out of court” section of the Ministry of the Attorney General’s website at:

I just found out that my wife did not tell me the truth about her income when we were working on our separation agreement. It turns out that she makes twice as much money as she said she did. Now that I know this, I think I am paying her too much support. What can I do?

This is one of the few situations in which you can go to court to ask a judge to change your separation agreement. Usually a judge will not change what a couple has agreed to in a separation agreement. However, a judge can change the agreement if he or she finds that a person was not honest and did not provide accurate information about income, property or debts when the agreement was made.

Common law couples

We have been living together without being married for 11 years and have one child. We have a house and a car we bought together and lots of furniture. We’re not getting along and we are talking about splitting up. Can we write a separation agreement?

Yes. Common law couples can write and sign separation agreements in the same way married couples can. You can include whatever you both want in your agreement. It is important for each of you to see different lawyers before signing the agreement.

Seeing a mediator

Mediators are usually social workers, lawyers, psychologists, or other professionals. When these professionals work as family mediators, their job is to listen to what you want and to help you reach an agreement on support payments, the division of property, custody of and access to the children, or any other issues.

Mediators do not take sides or make decisions for you. They cannot give you legal advice.

You should each speak to your own lawyer before you see a mediator. You need to know the law and your rights and obligations first, before mediation starts. Your lawyer will usually not go to mediation with you.

Mediation is not appropriate for everyone, particularly in cases where there has been violence or abuse. If you are afraid of, or intimidated by, your spouse, mediation may not be a good idea.

If you feel confident that you can say what you want for yourself and your children and that you can defend your ideas, you may want to try mediation. It may give you a chance to settle things with the help of a neutral person.

If you feel unhappy with how mediation is working out, you can leave it at any time. A lawyer can negotiate for you instead. If an agreement cannot be reached, you can go to court and have a judge decide.

You should show any agreement you reach during mediation to a lawyer before you sign it.

If mediation doesn’t work, can the mediator tell the court what was said during mediation?

It depends on whether you have chosen “open” or “closed” mediation. Before mediation starts you and your spouse will decide this issue. In open mediation, the mediator can write a report on what happened during mediation and can include anything that he or she thinks is important, and that information is available to the court. In closed mediation, the mediator’s report will only say what agreement you reached, or that you did not reach an agreement.

How can I find a mediator? How do I know if a mediator is good?

Family mediation services are available in connection with family courts across Ontario. You can find the family mediation service provider in your area at:

You can also obtain the names of private mediators where you live through the Ontario Association for Family Mediation or the ADR Institute of Ontario. Lawyers also often know the names of local mediators.

At this time there is no professional licensing association for mediators. It is up to you to ask a mediator about his or her experience and training. If you are not satisfied, or do not feel comfortable, look for another mediator.

Is mediation expensive?

Court-connected family mediation services are available for a fee that is based on your income, or free for cases that are in court on that day. Contact your family mediation service provider for more information about these costs. Private mediators are in business for themselves and their fees can vary widely.

Seeing an arbitrator

Arbitrators are usually lawyers, child psychologists or former judges who act as neutral decision makers for people who cannot agree on the right outcome for their situation. Unlike mediators, arbitrators have the power to make binding decisions for couples if they agree to the arbitration process. Except in certain circumstances, the arbitrator’s decision is final and both parties must follow it.

Lawyers may refer people to an arbitrator because they have not been able to negotiate a solution to one or more problems. For example, you may have agreed that you will pay support to your spouse, but not how much or for how long. If you and your spouse agree, you can ask an arbitrator to make the decision for you.

The cost of an arbitrator is usually shared between you and the other person. You should each speak to your own lawyer before seeing an arbitrator.

Family arbitrators are required to make decisions under the laws of Canada in order for their decisions to be effective, and they are required to have taken training in family law and domestic violence. You and your spouse will have to agree to arbitrate after the issues come up, not years in advance in a marriage contract or cohabitation agreement. As well, you and your spouse will each have to get advice from your own lawyer before you can begin the arbitration process. More information about family arbitrations in Ontario can be found at:

The ADR Institute of Ontario has a list of arbitrators that have been accredited by the organization, many of whom have experience arbitrating family disputes. This directory is available at:

Choosing a lawyer

If you are looking for a lawyer to help you resolve your family law issues, look for someone who has experience doing family law work. You might be able to get the name of a lawyer through a friend or relative. You can call the Law Society of Upper Canada’s Lawyer Referral Service to get the name of a lawyer who will give you one half hour of advice for free (page 52). If your income is low, or if you are on social assistance, you might qualify for legal aid. Legal aid can help pay for some or all of your legal costs. The toll-free number for Legal Aid Ontario is 1-800-668-8258. If you apply for legal aid, you will have to provide proof of your income. If you work, you may have to agree to pay back part or all of your lawyer’s costs.

Your lawyer can tell you about the law and can talk to you about services in the community that might be of help to you.

The conversations you have with your lawyer are confidential. Your lawyer cannot talk to others about what you have said without your permission.

If you are unhappy with the way your lawyer is handling your case, you have the right to say so. Talk it over with your lawyer. Your lawyer is working for you.

After seven years of marriage, we have decided to split up. We’ve talked about how we will divide our furniture and our household things. We don’t have any children. Do we need to see a lawyer anyway?

Yes. You should each see a different lawyer. It may not seem necessary now, but it can save you problems later. Your own lawyer can look out for your interests, tell you about things that you might not have thought of (like pension rights or taxes) and make sure that you understand what you are agreeing to.

My husband has a good job and makes a good salary. I have been at home for the last 10 years looking after our three kids. I have no money for a lawyer. What can I do?

You should call Legal Aid Ontario toll-free at 1-800-668-8258. You may qualify for legal aid because you cannot afford to pay a lawyer. If you will get money or property from your spouse in the future, you may still be able to get legal aid now on the condition that you will pay legal aid back when you get the money from your spouse.

My spouse abused me. I know I should leave, but I have nowhere to go and can’t afford to pay for a lawyer. How can I get legal advice?

If you have been abused, you have the right to emergency legal services through Legal Aid Ontario. You can talk to a lawyer for two hours for free. A women’s shelter, Legal Aid’s toll-free service or a community legal clinic can tell you how to get this free legal service.

Going to court

If you and your spouse cannot agree on how to settle the issues between you, you can go to court and ask a judge to decide for you.

Sometimes you can agree on everything except one thing, like custody of the children or what should happen to the family home. You can go to court and ask the court to decide that one thing for you.

Many decisions about the children and about support may have to be made quickly. If you cannot agree on what to do right away, you can go to court to ask for a temporary order. This order can cover things like custody of, and access to, the children, who can stay in the family home, and how much support should be paid.

Unless the court orders otherwise, the temporary order will stay in effect until the court has time to hear your case in full. The court will then make a final decision.

The first step in most family court cases is for both spouses to attend a Mandatory Information Program (MIP) session. At the MIP, you will learn about how adults and children adjust to separation, the different ways you can try to resolve disputes and the legal issues that arise upon separation and divorce.

In most cases, the court will schedule a case conference or a settlement conference. These conferences provide opportunities for you and your spouse and/or your lawyers, if you are represented, to meet with a judge to discuss the issues in your case. The judge may recommend that you see a mediator, if you have not already done so. Sometimes, the judge will give his or her opinion on what a judge hearing your case at a trial would likely decide. The judge’s opinion will not decide the issues in your case. However, it may help you to come to an agreement with your spouse. Even if you do not agree on everything, you may be able to agree on some issues.

We cannot agree on who should have custody of our children. When we go to court, will the children have to go too?

The judge will want information about the needs of the children and their relationship with each of you. Judges generally want to avoid having children give evidence in these cases.

In some circumstances, you may want to ask for an assessment. An assessment is a detailed review of your family situation by a person such as a social worker, psychologist or psychiatrist. The person doing the assessment will usually meet with each member of the family and sometimes with other people. He or she will then write a report for the court, which contains recommendations on the issues of custody and/or access. In most cases, you and your spouse will be responsible for the costs of the assessment.

In some cases the judge may ask the Children’s Lawyer to conduct an investigation and report back to the court with recommendations. The Children’s Lawyer may assign a clinical investigator to conduct the investigation. The clinical investigator will meet with the children, the parents and other key people.

If the court feels that the children would benefit from having their own lawyer during the court process, the court can ask the Children’s Lawyer to provide a lawyer to represent your children’s interests in court.

Do I need a lawyer to go to court?

No. You can go to court without a lawyer. You will then be responsible for completing and filing all of the appropriate court documents. You can get some information about completing these forms at the court’s Family Law Information Centre. You may also access the Ontario Court Forms Assistant at, for help preparing some of the most commonly used family forms. You can also review the Ministry’s guide to family court procedures to help you understand the family court rules, including the forms that must be completed at each stage. The guides are available at: You will also speak for yourself in front of the judge.

Some courts have lawyers who are called duty counsel. Legal aid provides these lawyers at no cost to people who have low incomes. Their job is to answer people’s questions and to help the court. They may be able to give you some information about the law. In some cases, duty counsel can also speak to the court on your behalf and help you negotiate a settlement.

Getting a divorce

Separation agreements and court orders resolve family matters when you separate but they do not legally end your marriage. The only way to do this is to get a divorce. Only a court can give you a divorce.

You can get a divorce by proving that your marriage is over. You can prove this by showing that you have been separated for a year, or that your husband or wife has had a sexual relationship with another person, or that your husband or wife has been physically or mentally cruel to you.

If you cannot agree on the terms of your divorce, you can go to court and let the court decide. If you can agree, you can file your agreement in court. In that case, you probably will not have to see a judge. When your divorce is final, you can marry again.

We’ve been living apart for five years and are happy with the way our separation agreement is working out. I would like to get a divorce now. Can I do the paperwork myself?

Yes. However, it is a good idea to speak to a lawyer first to make sure that you understand all the consequences of getting a divorce. Your lawyer can advise you on support, tax, pension and other issues.

II. Your Legal Rights And Obligations

Staying in the family home

The family home is a special place. It is where you live and where your children feel most comfortable. If you own your home, it may be the most expensive and valuable thing you own.

If you are married, both of you have an equal right to stay in your home unless a judge decides that one of you must move out.

Since both of you have a right to stay in your home, neither of you can sublet it, rent it, sell it or mortgage it without the other’s permission. This is true even if your lease is in only one of your names or if only one of you owns the home.

When you separate, both of you may want to stay in the family home. If you cannot agree on who should stay in the family home, you can use lawyers, a mediator or an arbitrator to help you decide, or you may have to go to court to have the court decide who can stay in it.

It may be that, after the separation, neither of you will be able to afford to stay in your home.

If you have children, the person who has custody of the children will most often be the one who stays in the family home with the children. This helps children adjust to their new family situation in a place and neighbourhood that they already know.

Common law couples

Before we lived together, I owned a house. The house is still in my name and I still pay the mortgage. Marie pays for repairs and upkeep. If we split up, does she have a right to stay in the house?

Maybe. If a judge orders you to pay support to Marie or for your children, the judge can also decide that Marie can stay in the house. It doesn’t matter who owns the house.Marie can also ask you to pay her back for the money she spent on repairs or upkeep to the house. Remember, if you and Marie marry, your rights change.

Caring for your children

Parents are responsible for their children. When a family is living together, both parents share the responsibility for their children’s upbringing, education and everyday lives. This applies whether the parents are married or not.

When you separate, you have to arrange for the care of your children. They need a place to live, food and clothing. Most important, they need to feel loved and supported even though their parents are not living together.

You have a responsibility to keep your children safe. Unless your spouse is violent or threatening, the best thing you can do is to work out together how you are going to care for the children after you separate.

If you can work things out together, you can write out your arrangements in a parenting plan. A parenting plan can include when each parent spends time with the children and who makes major decisions about them. A parenting plan can be an informal arrangement between the two of you, or it can be part of your separation agreement or court order. If the arrangements are informal, they can be difficult to enforce.

If you cannot agree on who should have custody of the children, you can go to court to have a judge decide. The judge may ask for an assessment by a clinical investigator, social worker, psychologist or psychiatrist. The person will speak to each of you, to the children and sometimes to others. He or she will write a report for the court, recommending where the children should live and when they should see the parent who does not have custody.

The judge must think only about the children’s best interests when making a decision about custody. Let the judge know if your spouse has ever been violent or abusive to you or any children, because the law requires that the judge consider this issue. The judge will look at all information heard in court and will consider where the children are living right now. If they have been living with only one parent for a while and things are going well, the judge may not want to change that.

Custody: If your separation agreement or a court order gives you custody of your children, the children will usually live with you. You have the right to make important decisions about their care, their education, their religious instruction and their welfare — unless the agreement or court order says otherwise.

Joint Custody: Parents who have joint custody of their children share the right to make important decisions about their care. The children may spend half the time with one parent and half the time with the other or they may spend more time living with one parent than with the other. Both parents remain involved in making decisions about the children. For joint custody to work, parents have to be able to communicate with each other and to co-operate even though they are not living together.

Access: If you do not have custody of your children, you have a right to spend time with them unless the court decides that this is not in their best interests. Access arrangements can be written out in detail in a parenting plan, separation agreement or court order. The plan, agreement or order could say, for example, that the children would be with you every other weekend.

Or, your access arrangements could be open, letting you work out arrangements with the other parent in a more flexible way. It is difficult to enforce this kind of access arrangement.

You also have the right to receive information about your children’s health, education and general situation. You do not have a right to be part of the decision-making about these things, unless you have joint custody of your children or your separation agreement or court order says that you will share in making decisions.

A court may refuse you access to your children if there is a fear that you will harm them or harm the parent with custody, or if there is a fear that you will not return the children to the parent with custody.

Supervised Access: Where there are concerns for the safety of the children, and/or a parent, the parents can agree, or the court can require, that access visits with children be supervised. This means that someone else must be present when you visit with your children. Sometimes the parents can agree on a friend or relative who can supervise visits. Parents can also pay a professional, such as a social worker, to supervise visits. In most communities across Ontario, there are government funded Supervised Access Centres staffed by trained professionals and volunteers (page 54). On arrangement with Supervised Access Centre staff, families can attend the centre for supervised visits or for supervised drop off and/or pickup of the children for access visits.

Enforcing custody and access orders

If a court order for custody or access is not being obeyed, you can ask the court to enforce the order. The court can try to get parents to respect the custody and access arrangements made for their children. The court may ask both parents to come to court to explain what is happening. If the court is satisfied that access is not occurring without a good reason, the court can fine the custodial parent or even send them to jail. If there are serious problems with custody and access arrangements, the court can change the arrangements.

You can also ask the court to enforce custody and access arrangements that are made in a separation agreement.

Our separation agreement says that my wife has custody of our children and I have access. I don’t think my wife is taking good care of the children. I think the kids would be better off living with me. Can our separation agreement be changed?

Maybe. You can try to reach a new custody arrangement with your spouse through negotiation, mediation, arbitration or collaborative family law. If that is not possible, you can go to court to ask the court to give you custody of your children. The court can change the custody and access arrangements in a separation agreement if it thinks it would be in the children’s best interest to make a change.

When my spouse and I split up last year, I stayed in the apartment. The children are with me and see their other parent once in a while. Do I have legal custody of my children?

Right now, you have what is called de facto custody. This means that, in fact, you have custody of your children and have been making decisions about their care and upbringing as if you had legal custody. Your spouse has accepted this arrangement. It is unlikely that a court would make changes to your situation.

However, it will be more difficult for you to enforce your custody rights if you do not have them clearly set out in a court order or agreement, especially if you and your spouse disagree on what the custody arrangements have been.

You will have legal custody when you and your spouse sign a separation agreement that says that you have custody or when a court order says that you do.

After a lot of arguments and a lot of time in court, I got a court order for custody of our children. Their father has access. His family lives outside of Canada. I am afraid he may take the children and go to his family’s home and I will never see them again. What can I do?

If your spouse takes the children away from you, he is committing a serious crime. The police can arrest him and charge him with child abduction. You can do things now that will make it harder for him to leave Canada with the children. There are also international laws to help get children back from many countries. Speak to a lawyer.

If you think the children are about to be taken out of the country, call the police right away.

Financially supporting your children

Both parents have a responsibility to financially support their children. They share this responsibility when they are living together and continue to share it after they separate. This responsibility applies to all parents, regardless of whether they were married, living together or have never lived together.

The parent with custody of the children has to take care of them, buy food and clothes for them, pay for outings and activities, look after all their day-to-day needs and keep the home running.

The parent who does not have custody of the children usually has to pay the parent with custody money to help cover the costs of taking care of the children. This payment is called child support.

The amount of child support to be paid in Ontario is set out under the Child Support Guidelines. Under the Guidelines, child support payments are based on the income of the person who does not have custody or the person with whom the children do not usually live and the number of children that need support.

In some cases, the court can order an amount that is higher or lower than the guideline amount.

For example, the court can award more than the guideline amount where the child has “special expenses.” These might include, for example, childcare expenses, tuition for private school, fees and equipment for hockey, or the cost of getting braces.

In very limited circumstances, the court can also award less than the guideline amount where paying this amount would cause “undue hardship” for the parent required to pay. In order for the court to consider awarding less than the guideline amount, the parent asking for the decrease would have to prove hardship and prove that the standard of living in his or her household is lower than the standard of living in the child’s household.

I think that my spouse is earning more money now than when the child support order was made. How can I find out?

Under Ontario’s Child Support Guidelines, the person paying support is required to provide the recipient with confirmation of his or her income each year on the anniversary of the support order, unless they have agreed not to exchange income disclosure each year.

Does my child support automatically change when my spouse’s income changes?

No. If your spouse’s income changes, the two of you may be able to agree on a new amount of support either on your own or with the help of a lawyer or mediator. However, if you can’t agree, you will need to return to court to have the new amount set by bringing a Motion to Change. The Ministry’s guides to Motions to Change are available at: The new amount will be determined under the Guidelines based on your spouse’s new income.

My child support order does not say anything about matching payments to the cost of living. Inflation could mean that my support money isn’t worth as much in a couple of years. Can I change this?

The Child Support Guidelines do not adjust support payments for increases in the cost of living. Payments are based on the income of the parent who pays support. If that parent’s income goes up, you can ask for an increase in your child support payments.

I have been paying child support fairly regularly and now my wife is starting to play games about when I can see my kids. Last weekend I went to pick them up and she said they’d gone to their grandmother’s for the day. Why should I pay support if I don’t get to see my children?

The law is very clear. You owe child support no matter what happens with your access arrangements. Child support is money you pay to help share the cost of taking care of your children. But you and your children do have a right to have your access arrangements respected. Speak to your lawyer, a mediator, or a family counsellor about the trouble you are having getting to see your children. Everyone will benefit if you can work things out with your spouse without having to go to court.

Common law couples

Martine and I are not married. We have lived together for eight years and have twins who are four years old. Martine is tired and fed up and wants to move out on her own. We have agreed that I will have custody of the twins. Will Martine have to pay child support?

Yes. The amount of support will be set under the Child Support Guidelines. The amount will be based on Martine’s income. Children have a right to financial support from both their parents, whether or not their parents are married. Common law couples have the same responsibilities to their children as married couples do.

Parents who have never lived together

A while ago I had a short relationship with Joan. We never lived together. We just dated a few times. We broke up when I found out she was dating someone else at the same time as me. She just had a baby boy, and she says it’s mine and she’s taking me to court for child support. I don’t think I’m the father, and even if I am, I don’t see why I should have to support the child.

If the child is yours, you have a legal obligation to support the child, even though you and Joan were never married or living together. You would also have a right to access to your child so that you could spend time with him. However, if you believe he is not your child you can request a paternity test. If Joan won’t agree to one, you can ask the court to order the paternity test.


I was a single mother, looking after my three-year-old son, when I married Jason five years ago. We all got along great until a few months ago. Now I think we’re headed for a separation. If we do split, does Jason have to pay any child support for my son?

If Jason accepted the responsibilities of being a parent to your son, you have a right to ask him to pay child support, even though he is not your son’s biological father. A judge could decide if Jason had, in fact, treated your son as his own and had accepted the responsibilities of being a parent. If so, the judge would then look at Jason’s income and set the support according to the Guidelines.

Financially supporting your spouse

The law views spousal relationships as economic partnerships and when the partnership breaks down the person with more money may have to support the other. At the same time, the law expects adults to try to be self-sufficient and to look after their own needs to the best of their abilities.

During a relationship, one person often spends more time looking after the home and the children. That person does not have a chance to earn a lot of money in the workforce, or to become more skilled and more highly paid in a trade or profession, or to pay into a pension plan over a long period of time. When a relationship ends, that person is at an economic disadvantage.

To decide on the amount of support that should be paid by one spouse to the other, the law says that judges must look at how much the person asking for support needs to live, and how much the other person can pay. A person may claim support to help him or her become financially self-sufficient or to keep from ending up in serious financial difficulty.

In general, people who have been together for a short time will only be able to get support on a short-term basis. Support payments may give a person a chance to go back to school or train for a job.

After years out of the workforce or years in low-paying jobs, some people may never be able to become financially self-sufficient. Their spouses may have to pay long-term support for them.

Here are some of the things that are taken into account:

You can agree on the amount of support that will be paid and for how long it will be paid and include this in your separation agreement. If you cannot agree, you can go to court and let the court decide.

Spousal support guidelines are available to help you figure out the amount of support that should be paid. These guidelines apply to couples who have been married and are not mandatory. They provide a range of suggested spousal support amounts based on the age of the spouse receiving support, the length of the marriage and the presence or absence of child support. These guidelines were designed to assist you in reaching agreement about a support amount based on the amounts awarded by judges in similar cases. More information about the spousal support guidelines is available at:

How can I figure out how much support to ask for?

You need to write down details of your income and expenses. List how much you spend on food and household expenses and things like transportation, medication, dental bills, clothes, dry cleaning, haircuts, car expenses and insurance, home insurance, vacations, gifts, entertainment, pet food and veterinary bills. All these expenses can be included when figuring out how much support you need. You can also ask your lawyer to explain how the spousal support advisory guidelines might apply to your situation. Simple spousal support calculations can also be prepared on the following website:

I am 55 years old. The court ordered my spouse to pay me $500 every month. That is fine for now, but with inflation and the price of everything going up, I am worried that it won’t be enough in five years. Is there anything I can do?

Yes. You can ask the court to add a cost of living adjustment to your court order. This ties your support payments to the Consumer Price Index for the area where you live. Your support payments will then change every year to match the rate of inflation.

Common law couples

We’ve lived together for ten years. Most of that time, I’ve been at home taking care of our four kids. If we separate, can I get support for myself?

You can ask for support. Common law spouses have a right to ask for support for themselves if they have lived together for more than three years or if they have lived together for less than three years but have had or adopted a child together.

Enforcing your support payments

All support orders made in Ontario are automatically filed with the Family Responsibility Office (FRO). FRO processes child and spousal support payments to help ensure that the support gets paid on a regular basis and takes action to enforce support orders that are not being paid on time or in full.

Automatic Support Deduction

When a court orders a person to make regular support payments, the court also makes a support deduction order. The court sends the support deduction order to FRO and FRO writes to the person’s employer (or other income source) telling the employer to deduct the amount of the support from the person’s regular pay cheque. The employer must then send the money to FRO. FRO, in turn, sends the money to the person entitled to the support under the court order.

If your support arrangements are set out in a domestic contract (marriage contract, separation agreement, cohabitation agreement or a paternity agreement), rather than a court order, you can still have your support payments processed through FRO. To do so, you must file your domestic contract with the court according to the procedure in the Family Law Act and the rules of court. Once the domestic contract is filed with the court, it can then be filed with FRO and FRO can collect your support payments for you.

Withdrawing from FRO

Some people do not want their support payments processed through FRO. If both the payor (the person who owes the support) and the recipient (the person who is to receive the support) agree, they can withdraw from FRO. They can do so by sending a Notice of Withdrawal, signed by both of them, telling FRO that they would like to withdraw their support order, or domestic contract.

FRO will close the case once it receives this notice. However, if the recipient is receiving social assistance and the support order is assigned to the social assistance agency, the agency providing the social assistance must also agree to withdraw the support order from FRO. You should confirm if any social service agency is involved and whether their consent is also required. You can do this by completing and sending a Confirmation of Assignment to the social service agency. The agency will advise if they are involved.

If the payor is not in compliance with the support order, and owes support monies, the recipient can decide to withdraw the support order from FRO without the agreement of the payor and enforce the support order directly. The recipient can do this by sending a signed Notice by Support Recipient of Unilateral Withdrawal form to FRO.

Once FRO receives this notice it will close the case and the recipient can enforce the support order. If the recipient is receiving social assistance and the support order is assigned to the social assistance agency, the agency providing the social assistance must also agree to withdraw the support order from FRO.

There is a fee charged to both the payor and the recipient if the support order is re-filed with FRO at a later date.

Enforcement of support payments that are not being made on time or in full

If you withdraw your support order from FRO, and the support payments that are owed to you are not being paid on time or in full, you can take legal action on your own behalf to recover the money you are owed. You can:

Bringing these legal actions may be time-consuming and expensive and you may need a lawyer to assist you. However, you do not have to enforce your support payments yourself. FRO can act on your behalf to recover the money that is owed to you. FRO can take all of the steps outlined above to collect your support payments. In addition, FRO can:

If you have withdrawn from FRO, you can re-file your support order or domestic contract if you have problems with your support payments later and decide that you want FRO’s assistance.

You should be aware that FRO does its job best when you keep the office up to date. Always make sure that FRO knows your most current address and telephone number, and if you find out that the payor has moved or has changed jobs, you should let FRO know, in case the payor has not notified the office.

In order for FRO to enforce your support payments effectively, it is also important that your support order or domestic contract be clearly written. For more information on this, you may find it helpful to refer to the FRO website at

Dividing your property

The law says that married spouses share responsibility for childcare, household management and earning income during their marriage. In the eyes of the law, a marriage is an equal partnership. When a marriage ends, the partnership is over and property has to be divided.

To recognize the equal contribution of each person, the general rule is that the value of any property that you acquired during your marriage and that you still have when you separate must be divided equally, 50-50. Property that you brought with you into your marriage is yours to keep if your marriage ends. Any increase in the value of this property during your marriage must be shared.

There are some exceptions to these rules. The law allows you to keep the value of some property that you have at the end of your marriage for yourself. This property is called excluded property. It includes:

The family home is another exception to the general rules. The law says that when your marriage ends, the full value of the family home must be shared even if one of you owned the home before you were married, received it as a gift or inherited it.

Unlike other types of property, you do not get to keep for yourself what the house was worth at the time of your marriage.

You and your spouse can agree to a different split. Or, in some circumstances, you can ask the court to divide things differently. The court can only divide property differently in very special situations and if a 50-50 split would be extremely unfair to one of you.

The legal rules that you have to follow to calculate the value of your property and divide it between you and your spouse can be complicated. It is a good idea to consult a lawyer about how the rules apply in your case.

The next section will give you an idea of how these rules work. Remember that this is only a description of the general rules. There may be other rules and exceptions that would apply to the facts in your case.

The first thing that you and your spouse must do is to separately calculate the total value of your share of the family property according to the rules set out in the law. You must be fair and honest when you do this. If you go to court, you must prepare a full financial report of all your property, debts and income. You must swear that it is accurate.

You can calculate your share of the family property using Steps 1-4 set out below:

Step 1: Find out the value of the property you had on the day you separated
Step 2: Subtract the value of the debts you owed on the day that you separated
Step 3: Subtract the value of property that the law allows you to keep for yourself
Step 4: Subtract the value of property that you brought into your marriage less the value of debts
Summary of steps 1 – 4:

Value of property at separation (Step 1)
Value of debts at separation (Step 2)
Excluded property (Step 3)
Value of property at marriage less debts (Step 4)
your share of the value of the family property.

The final step will tell you if one of you owes the other any money.

Step 5: Find out if a payment is owing

Note: If a person has more debts than property, the value of his or her share of the family property is zero.

For instance, if you owed the bank $15,000 when you separated, and you have only $8,000 worth of property, the value of your family property is $0 for the purposes of calculating an equalization payment.

Example: George and Maria

  1. Find out the value of the property you had on the day you separated
    • George: $47,000
    • Maria: $12,000
  2. Subtract the value of the debts you owed on the day you separated
    • George: -8,000
    • Maria: -2,000
  3. Subtract the value of the property that the law allows you to keep for yourself
    • George: -4,000
    • Maria: N/A
  4. Subtract the value of your property at the time of marriage less the value of debts
    • George: -18,000
    • Maria: -8,000
  5. Total Value of family property
    • George: $17,000 (larger amount)
    • Maria: $2,000 (smaller amount)

$17,000 - $2,000 = $15,000

$15,000 ÷ 2 = $7,500

George must make an equalization payment of $7,500 to Maria so that they are each left with the same amount, $9,500.

Our calculations say I am entitled to a payment of $5,000. Do I get this in cash?

Not necessarily. The payment can be paid in cash. It can also be made by giving you property worth $5,000. How the payment will be made is one of the things that you can arrange in your separation agreement. Or, it is one of the things the court can decide.

We each went to a lawyer and got some information and advice about how the law says our family property should be divided. Now we’ve come to our own agreement about things. Can our separation agreement divide things differently from the way the law says?

Yes. You are free to divide your property any way you want in your separation agreement. You should each have your own lawyer look over your separation agreement before you sign it. You cannot easily change your separation agreement later.

I received a car as a gift from my father. I know that the law says that if we separate, I don’t have to share the value of gifts I received during our marriage. I have decided to sell the car. Once I sell the car, is the money I get for it part of the property I must share with my spouse if we decide to separate?

Not necessarily. If you keep the money separate, for example, in a savings bond, so that you can always trace it to the sale of the car, it will be excluded from the property you must share at the end of your marriage.

There is an important exception to this general rule that affects the family home. If you use the money from the sale of the car to pay down the mortgage on your family home or to renovate it, you must share the full value of the family home with your spouse if you separate. Once money is put into the family home it must be shared, even if the money came from a gift or an inheritance or other property that the law says you do not have to share with your spouse.

It’s my wife’s fault our marriage is over. She started seeing someone else and has decided that she wants out of the marriage. Why should I have to share the value of my property with her now just so this new guy gets it?

Your spouse’s new relationship has no effect on the division of property at the end of your marriage. The law on dividing family property has nothing to do with why your marriage has ended. The law sees a marriage as an equal partnership. When it is over, the financial benefits of the partnership have to be divided evenly and fairly. The calculations are made without looking at who is at fault or who is to blame.

My husband has been paying into company pension plans for 32 years. I stayed home to look after the kids and now I am doing odd jobs for a little extra money. If we separate, do I have a right to share his pension?

A pension is included in the calculation of your spouse’s share of the family property at separation. The valuation of an Ontario pension is prepared by the pension administrator, which is then added to the value of your spouse’s property. If an equalization payment is owed to you, you can also agree or ask the court for an order for all or part of the payment that is owed to you to be made from the pension.

Important: As soon as you separate, you are no longer entitled to spousal benefits under pension law. For example, if your spouse dies after you separate, you do not have a right to a survivor’s benefit (unless your spouse began receiving their pension before you separated and you hadn't waived the right to this benefit at the time pension payments began). You should make sure that your agreement or court order is clear about your rights to your spouse’s pension.

Last summer, my brother and I built an addition to my house. The addition cost $10,000 and added $20,000 to the value of the house. Now my wife and I are splitting up. Can I get the $20,000 back?

No. You have to share the full value of your family home with your spouse. It doesn’t matter if you put more money or work into your home. There are some very limited exceptions to this rule.

My parents left me their house when they died. I have been living in it for the last two years with my boyfriend. We are planning to get married and raise a family here. If our marriage doesn’t work out, I don’t want to lose the house to him. In our marriage contract, can we say that the house is mine no matter what happens?

Yes. Your marriage contract can say that you own the house and that its value when you married, and any increase in its value during your marriage, will be yours. But, your spouse will have the same right as you have to stay in the family home if your marriage breaks down. You cannot put anything in your marriage contract to change this.

If your marriage ends, your spouse may be able to stay in the house until you can agree to, or the court decides on, other arrangements.

We live on a big dairy farm. Is the whole farm considered to be our family home?

No. Your family home is only the part of the farm where you live, the house and the small area around it. The rest of the farm is property like any other property. It is not covered by the special rules for family homes.

I’m so upset by everything, I cannot cope with making lists of property right now. Do I have to do this right away?

You have six years from the day you separated to go to court to ask for a decision on the amount of the equalization payment. If you get a divorce, you may have less time. You would have six years from the day you separated, or two years from the date your divorce is final, to go to court, whichever date comes first.

I am worried that now that I’ve moved out, all our family property will disappear before we have a chance to resolve things. I think my husband might get rid of it just to keep me from sharing in its value. Is there anything I can do?

Yes. You can go to court and ask the court to stop your spouse from giving away the property. The court may tell him not to sell or dispose of the property or it can order that it be put in someone else’s care to protect it.

Common law couples

We are not married but we’ve been living together for 15 years. If we split up, do we have to share the value of our property?

Maybe. Only married couples have an automatic legal right to half the value of family property. You can ask your spouse to pay you back for your contribution to property that your spouse owns. If your spouse does not agree, you can go to court to make your claim. But the claim will be based on another area of law, not family law. Ask a lawyer for advice.

Dividing property after the death of your husband or wife

The law on dividing your family property on separation can be used to divide your family property after your husband or wife dies. There may be benefits to doing this.

You have six months from the time of your husband’s or wife’s death to file a document with the court stating that you wish to use these laws to divide your family property. You should see a lawyer before making a decision.

If there is a will

If your husband or wife dies leaving a will saying how his or her property is to be divided, you have a choice. You can take the property left to you in the will and property that you receive that was owned jointly or you can divide your family property using the same rules that apply in the case of separation.

Using these rules may be to your financial advantage if your husband or wife left most of his or her property to other members of your family or to other people.

You will have to make a list of all your property in the same way that you would if you separated. You must value your property according to what it was worth the day before your husband or wife died.

If there is no will

If your husband or wife dies without a will, there is a special law, the Succession Law Reform Act, which says how property is to be divided among the surviving family.

You can accept the property division according to that law, or you can divide the property using the rules that apply on separation.

III. Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is not tolerated in Ontario. All Ontarians have the right to feel safe in their homes and communities. Although both women and men can be victims of domestic violence, the overwhelming majority of this violence involves men abusing women. Violence can have lasting harmful effects on victims and has a tragic impact on children.

Threatening, hitting, kicking, punching, pushing, stalking and harassing another person are crimes. Having sex with a person against that person’s will is also a crime. Being married does not change this. A person committing these acts can be arrested, charged, convicted and jailed.

Psychological, emotional and financial abuse should also not be tolerated, although they are not considered to be crimes under the Criminal Code of Canada.

If you or your children are experiencing any of these forms of abuse, you are not alone. There is help available for you. If you are being threatened or physically or sexually assaulted, call the police.

If you do not wish to call the police, or you are experiencing other forms of abuse, there are resources in your community to help you. Some of these are listed at the back of this booklet.

Talk to a lawyer about what you can do to protect yourself and your children. You could also talk to your doctor, people at your community information centre or community health centre. They know about services in your community that can help you and your children. Your doctor can take care of your injuries and make a note of them in your file. These records can be used in court to prove to a judge that you were assaulted.

The Assaulted Women’s Helpline is a toll-free crisis telephone service operating province-wide 24 hours a day, seven days a week (page 54). Trained counsellors can help you determine your options, provide information about local supports such as shelters and sexual assault centres and help you develop an immediate safety plan. Interpreters in 150 languages are available to respond to callers. Call 1-866-863-0511 or, in the Toronto calling area, 416-863-0511. TTY 1-866-863-7868.

In addition, you can call the Victim Support Line (VSL) at 1-888-579-2888. Although this is not a crisis line, VSL staff can provide help by locating an appropriate community-based assistance service. Callers can also access recorded information about how the criminal justice system works, from arrest and sentencing to release procedures.

If your spouse abused you and is now in jail serving a provincial sentence, you can call the VSL and register with the Victim Notification System to get information about the abuser’s release date.

If your case goes to criminal court, in many communities there is a Victim/Witness Assistance Program office to help you go through the court process. Your community may also have a Domestic Violence Court program. As part of this program, you will receive information and assistance from Victim/Witness Assistance Program staff. In addition, a judge may order an offender to attend a specialized 16-week education and counselling program.

If you are involved in the family court process and are a victiof domestic violence you may also meet with a Family Court Support Worker.

A Family Court Support Worker can:

Family Court Support Workers are based in communities across the province. For a list of service providers, visit:

If you have questions about the program, or need helping finding your service provider, please call the Victim Support Line toll-free at 1-888-579-2888, or 416-314-2447 in the Greater Toronto Area.

It is important to find out about resources in your community. If you have to leave your home and you have no money and no place to stay, you may be able to get social assistance, subsidized housing, legal aid and free counselling.

I left the house the other night when my spouse was being abusive. My friend says that because I deserted the children, my spouse will automatically get custody of them if we go to court. Is that true?

No. If you leave an abusive spouse, you have the right to ask for custody of your children and for support for them and yourself. You do not lose this right because you are the one who left the house. A judge must look at the best interests of the children when deciding on who should have custody of them. Let the judge know that your spouse was being abusive. The judge must consider whether a person has been violent or abusive towards their spouse or children when deciding about custody and access. However, it is important for you to see a lawyer right away and to deal with custody questions quickly. If your children have been living with your spouse and without you for some time, a judge may not want to change their living situation.

Even if you leave with the children, you should deal with the issue of custody as soon as possible.

Laws for victims of abuse

There are laws to protect you and your children from violence.

Access orders

A judge must consider whether a person has been violent or abusive when considering the person’s ability to care for a child. Ontario’s child protection laws also protect children against physical, sexual and emotional harm. This conduct may also be a crime. If your child is a victim of abuse by the other parent, you can ask the court to deny that parent access or allow access only if it is supervised.

Restraining orders

If you are fearful that your spouse or partner or your former spouse or partner will hurt you or your children, you can ask the court to make a restraining order. A restraining order is made by a judge at the family court to help protect you and your child or any child in your custody.

A restraining order will list conditions that the person you are afraid of must obey. The restraining order can be general - that the person you are afraid of has to stay away from you - or it can be specific. It can say that the person must not come to your home, to your place of work, to your children's school or to other places where you often go (for example, your place of worship or your parent's home).

If the person who has a restraining order against them disobeys a restraining order, the police can arrest them.

Who can apply for a restraining order?

You can apply for a restraining order at the family court:

You do not need to have children with a person in order to apply for a restraining order against that person. But you should be aware that you cannot apply for a restraining order against a person you are dating but have not lived with.

Information about how to obtain a restraining order is available on the Ministry of the Attorney General’s website at:

The restraining order must be served on your spouse as soon as possible, but you do not have to serve it yourself. It’s best to have someone else serve it for you. If you don’t have a lawyer, court staff will assist you.

If your spouse disobeys the restraining order, you can call the police. The police will want to see the restraining order. Keep it with you at all times. They may also ask you if your spouse knows about the restraining order. If the police believe that your spouse has disobeyed the restraining order, he or she can be arrested.

Exclusive possession of the family home

If you are married, you can ask the court for the right to live in your home and to make your spouse leave. You have an equal right to stay in your home even if the home is in your spouse’s name. It is a good idea to speak to a lawyer if you are asking for an order for exclusive possession of the family home.

If you are not married, you may also ask the court to stay in the home you shared when you lived together, as part of a support order for you or your child. The judge can order this even if you do not own the home or if your name is not on the lease.

Before a judge will order your spouse out of the home, the judge will consider if there was violence in the relationship, if there is another suitable place for you to live, if it is in the children’s best interests to stay in their home, and your financial position.

If the judge agrees to an exclusive possession order, your spouse must move out and stay out of the house. If he or she tries to come in, you can call the police and he or she can be arrested.

Restraining orders and exclusive possession orders may not be enough to stop a violent person from hurting you. Your spouse is already breaking the law by abusing or harassing you or your children and may be prepared to break other laws by hurting you again.

If you are a woman in this situation, a women’s shelter in your community may be the safest place for you to live with your children for a while.

Stop the Abuse

If you are physically or emotionally abusing your spouse, you can do something to stop.

You can:

IV. Finding More Information

Aboriginal Issues

The Family Law Education for Women website provides various information booklets produced by the Ontario Native Women’s Association online. The family law topics covered include: child protection, support, custody/access, and marriage and divorce. These booklets can be accessed at:

In some locations assistance is also available through the Aboriginal Family Courtworker Programme. Information about this program is available at:

Child Support Guidelines

Information about the Child Support Guidelines is available on the Ministry’s website at:

The Federal Department of Justice website contains a tool to help calculate the amount of child support that is owed in accordance with the Child Support Guidelines at:


For information and/or help for children who may have been abused, your local children’s aid society may be able to help you. Look in the white pages of your telephone directory under “Children’s Aid Society” or consult the emergency numbers at the front of the telephone directory. The Ontario Association of Children’s Aid Societies’ website at also provides contact information for all local children’s aid societies in Ontario.

Office of the Children’s Lawyer: call 416-314-8000 or visit the Ministry of the Attorney General website at:

If a child has been taken outside of Canada without your permission:

Ministry of the Attorney General, Central Authority for Ontario for The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction. Call 416-240-2411. For more information on child abduction, please visit:

International Child Abductions: A Manual for Parents. To view the Manual visit the website at:

“Our missing children” program c/o National Missing Children Services: In Ontario call toll-free 1-877-318-3576 or Fax: 613-993-5430. For more information, including links to other helpful sites, visit the web-site at:

Family Law

For the location of the family court in your community, look in the blue pages of your telephone directory under “Courts” in the “Index-Government Listings” or visit the Ministry of the Attorney General Website at:

For information on the steps in family cases and instructions on how to fill out the forms, the Ministry of the Attorney General website provides various guides to procedures at:

Family Law Information Centres: For details about services provided, contact your local family court or visit the Ministry of the Attorney General website at:

Information Sessions are offered at family courts in Ontario. These sessions address the impact of separation and divorce on adults and children, and provide basic legal information. They are free of charge. For more locations and information visit the Ministry of the Attorney General website at:

Separate Ways video on separation and divorce is available through family courts and public libraries.

Moving Forward video follows one couple on their journey towards resolving their family law dispute, as well as parenting issues, and describes options for resolution such as the case conference and mediation. The video is available through family courts and public libraries.

Where Do I Stand: A Child’s Guide to Separation and Divorce is available in all family courts and at Publications Ontario. Visit the Ministry of the Attorney General website at:

For pamphlets on family law and other legal issues contact:

Community Legal Education Ontario

119 Spadina Avenue
Suite 600
Toronto ON M5V 2L1

Tel.: 416-408-4420

Fax: 416-408-4424


To make a payment to FRO, send it to:

The Director, Family Responsibility Office
P.O. Box 2204, Station P

Finding A Lawyer

To obtain more information on the services provided by the Law Society of Upper Canada (LSUC), visit the website at:

Lawyer Referral Service will provide you with the name of a lawyer who practices in the area of family law in a location near you. That lawyer will provide a half-hour consultation free of charge. The telephone number for this service is 1-800-268-8326 or 416-947-3330 (within the GTA). There is no charge for this service.

LSUC will review your complaint about how a lawyer handled your case:

Tel.: 416-947-3310 (Toronto and area)

Toll-free: 1-800-268-7568


Information on how to dispute a lawyer’s charges (fees): visit the LSUC website at:

Legal Aid: Please contact Legal Aid Ontario toll-free at 1-800-668-8258 or 416-979-1446 in Toronto to see if legal aid is available to you. You may also visit the website at for more information.

Mediation, Collaborative Family Law And Family Arbitration

To find the court-connected family mediation and information service in your area visit:

For more information on family mediation and finding a family mediator, contact:

Ontario Association for Family Mediation

P.O. Box 433
Carleton Place, ON K7C 3P5

Tel.: 1-800-989-3025

Fax: 1-866-352-1579




The ADR Institute of Ontario
234 Eglinton Avenue East
Toronto, ON M4P 1K5

(416) 487-4447

For more information about collaborative family law and locating a collaborative family lawyer in your area, contact:

The Ontario Collaborative Law Federation

Supervised Access

For information on the Supervised Access Program of the Ministry of the Attorney General, contact your local family court or visit the Ministry’s website at:

Domestic Violence

Assaulted Women’s Helpline: This is a toll-free crisis telephone service operating province-wide 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Trained counsellors can help you determine your options, provide information about local supports such as shelters and sexual assault centers and help you develop an immediate safety plan. Interpreters in 150 languages are available to respond to callers. Call 1-866-863-0511 or, in the Toronto calling area, 416-863-0511. TTY 1-866-863-7868.

French-Language Crisis Line: A toll-free crisis telephone service for Francophone women experiencing violence. Call 1-877-336-2433 (24 hours a day, 7 days a week).

[1] The information in this booklet with respect to division of property and taxation of support payments may not apply to you if you are an Indian registered under the federal Indian Act. Further information is available at the back of this booklet.